The Ultimate Coffee Date 2016 #3

Good morning and happy Saturday.  It’s March already, and as you can tell by the lack of posts, my blogging had taken a back seat recently as I have been adjusting to life lately.  I am here today though to join all of you for coffee.

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While having coffee today, I will share with you that it has taken me longer than I thought to adjust to having our oldest son gone.  Since leaving for the Army Rangers, my entire world has been changed and if I were to be totally honest, I just checked out.  I feel as if I would be discrediting myself if I didn’t let you know that I just have had days where I didn’t have the desire to get out or really get up out of bed.  I would just go through the motions of the tasks I knew needing tending like getting the kids off to school, making their meals, and keeping up with running the house.  That was about the extent of my efforts.

I am now {weeks later} finally starting to feel somewhat like myself again {somewhat}.  I am back at Pure Barre and am so glad I pushed myself out the door back to classes.  I am so very proud of our son and I hate the sad feelings that I find sneak back into my mind.  With continued exercise and getting out more often, I have no doubt I will be feeling 100% again soon.

While having coffee today, I will share with you that our daughter just turned 14 yesterday.  The baby of the family is no longer that.  Faith is amazing.  She is really growing into a smart and strong young lady.  She is so lucky to have such an amazing group of girlfriends, they are all so awesome and so positive.  That is important as these girls get ready to head to high school.  We have been getting ready for the end of the school year and setting her classes up for her freshman year.

While having coffee today, I will share with you that I have taken way too much time off from running.  I don’t know what happened, but I just stopped.  Maybe I was burnt out, maybe my body just said no more, or my mind just shut it out.  I am not sure, I know I have been thinking about it often and I miss it terribly.  I remember how amazing I felt when I was running every day.  So what happened?  I so badly want to lace up and get back out there, I just can’t pinpoint what the problem is.

While having coffee today, I will share with you that I have another Pure Barre giveaway coming, only this time it will be on Instagram.  Make sure you head on over and follow so you don’t miss out.  {Something fun for next week}.

As always, please make sure to stop on over and check out my co-hosts Coco and Deborah.  Leave a “coffee related” post in the links and share using the hashtag #Ultimatecoffeedate

The Ultimate Coffee Date

Thanks for taking time this weekend to stop over and chat.  Be well and have a wonderful weekend.

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  1. I’m so sorry you’ve been struggling. Glad you’re seeing the light at the end of that tunnel.
    Coco recently posted…Marching Forward With The Ultimate Coffee DateMy Profile

  2. I am so sorry you are having such a difficult time…totally understandable though for sure!!

    Good job starting to get back into a routine…good luck!

    Aww.that is awesome about your daughter..congrats!

    I hear ya on the running or lack there of..I hope you get back at it soon.

    Sending virtual hugs your way!

  3. I am sure it is a lot to get used to with all of those changes. I hope you find a group of ladies that are going through something similar to talk with. I saw the pics of your daughter yesterday what a cutie. We all need a break from running sometimes. The best thing about running is that it is always there when you need it.
    Deborah @ Confessions of a mother runner recently posted…The Ultimate Coffee Date-MarchMy Profile

  4. It’s OK to have those feelings. After all, you are not a switch that can be flipped and suddenly feel great. It’s wonderful to hear you are getting out and are involved again with Pure Barre class. Exercise is a powerful tool. Have you thought about trying a little test run? It may be a great way to sort out your feelings. Your daughter sounds lovely. A supportive group of friends is key. Thanks for the linkup.
    HoHo Runs recently posted…Coffee Talk (March)My Profile

  5. I have a lot of hobbies like that — knitting, painting — which I love, and think about often, and wish I was doing, but don’t. Sometimes hobbies (or fitness) are just like that, and when you pick them up again, it’s like you never stopped.
    Judy @ Chocolaterunsjudy recently posted…Yes, even more serendipitous enconters: Spilling over high teaMy Profile

  6. Good morning and thanks for hosting! I’ve been away from getting outside and exercising for a while too without really being able to put my finger on why. I guess sometimes we just need to step back from what we are doing and readjust.

  7. I’m sorry you’ve been struggling, but am so glad to hear you’re starting to feel like you again. Give yourself time and permission to feel what you need to feel.
    Michelle @ Running with Attitude recently posted…Ultimate Coffee Date – March 2016My Profile

  8. I can only imagine the scope of emotions you go through with your son deployed. Glad you’re starting to feel like yourself again. That last year before high school is so exciting and such a big shift. My oldest is just finishing up her freshman year and it’s been quite the whirlwind. Thanks for the linkup!

  9. You are so right that a good peer group helps as kids, especially girls, enter the terrifying teenage years. It’s great that your daughter has such a strong group!
    Jessica S recently posted…A Memphis Coffee DateMy Profile

  10. Oh it’s soo hard when you can’t pinpoint the reason! Maybe find a good race to help motivate! You’ve got so much going on right now… good luck with all of it!
    Laura@Fit Running Mama recently posted…Catching Up on Life with Coffee!!My Profile

  11. I can’t imagine the emotions you are going through with the absent of your son. I am praying for you and hope you find the peace with his decision to go and do this.
    You know the hardest step is that first one after you lace up! Thanks Lynda for the link up and I’m glad your back at it, One day at a time, one day at a time!
    Tricia@MissSippipiddlin recently posted…Ultimate Coffee Date FebruaryMy Profile

  12. I’m glad you’re feeling a little better now–I think it’s good that you’re taking the time that you need! That’s a hard situation to adapt/get used to. Hang in there though! <3 Sending you lots of love!

    Happy birthday to your daughter! Having an awesome group of friends makes such a world of a difference! I'm still friends with most of my closest friends from elementary school/junior high/high school, and that's definitely due in part to how awesome they've been all throughout the years–why change! 😛
    Farrah recently posted…Ultimate Coffee Date: March 2016My Profile

  13. PURE BARRE!!! Yes, please:) I have 2 more classes to get to my 100. I have a 13 year old son and I’m already dreading the day he’s out of the house…it must be hard missing your son

  14. Lynda, I can totally relate. My son is almost 22 and has flown the nest. It took me a while find my own identity other than being “Trevor’s Mom”. I still miss him, but it does get easier. I know that you are very proud of him!

  15. I’m glad to hear that I’m not the only one who stopped running for no reason, but just stopped! I’ve finally gotten myself back to it, but am not quite back to every day.

    I’m sorry about your sadness. You are right that getting out the door, exercising, and trying to have some normalcy will help with the sadness. Talking about it helps too, so use your friends, your family, use your blog or other forums, but get it out. Take care!
    Megan McGown recently posted…Good to be Back: The Ultimate Coffee DateMy Profile

  16. I’m sorry you’re having a hard time with your son leaving home. I can’t imagine how strange that must feel–I don’t have any kids. And to have your baby be 14 already! I’m sure you’re so proud of all of your children though.

    As for running, maybe you body needed a break. I’m sure it will let you know when it’s ready again. 🙂

  17. It is tough, these family changes, give yourself the chance to catch up! Thank you for coffee- warm thoughts way!
    Mary Beth Jackson recently posted…Smokin’ hot March coffee dateMy Profile

  18. The best thing about running is that you can always start with a few steps again when you are ready. Maybe the SF Marathon can inspire you to start back up?

    Glad you are starting to feel more like yourself again. Give yourself some time.

  19. I’m sorry that you’re having a hard time with the new adjustments going on in your life right now. All I can honestly say is to stay positive. Things will all come together again. I have two boys (small ages) so I’m sure that I would be feeling the same way if this was going on in my life. Hugs darling.

  20. I love this post series. It’s very conversational and easy going. Very much a virtual coffee date. Have a nice weekend!
    Cori Large recently posted…Family Gift IdeasMy Profile

  21. I’m so sorry you are having a difficult time. 🙁 I know how it can be.. I’ve dealt with depression and anxiety for many years. I can’t imagine how it must feel to watch your children grow up and leave. I have a 10 month old and have never been away from him for more than a few hours! I hope you continue to feel better and know that your son is doing a great thing!

  22. I feel you on the running thing!! I’m trying though… slowly but surely! (bar being struck down with flu this weekend!)

    Been a while since I linked up so happy to be back and catching up with what everyones been up to!
    Elle Linton recently posted…Behind The Screen: February 2016 Report #UltimateCoffeeDateMy Profile

  23. So I just always take a winter (Northeast!) break from running, since I really HATE running in cold weather- I don’t think it is bad at all- it actually feels like my body needs other workouts and my mind new interests. I usually start up again from scratch which admittedly is hard mentally, but I start by run/walks and then build up when I feel motivated…and so far, I am always motivated! Usually by an upcoming race! Best of luck getting a mojo back!

  24. I’m glad to hear you’re starting to get back to normalcy despite missing your son. I can’t imagine how you’ve been feeling, but I’m glad you’re doing better! Happy birthday to your daughter! My nephew just turned 15 last week, I still can’t believe it!
    Janelle @ Run With No Regrets recently posted…Ultimate Coffee Date – March 2016My Profile

  25. Love the idea of this post! I know how hard it can be to find your normal again after you’ve just been “off”. When my very best friend left for Marine bootcamp (& now that he’s deployed) I just kind of checked out for a while. It’s a defense mechanism, but you have the inner strength (& your blogging community!) to get you through!

    xoxo, SS

    The Southern Stylista

  26. Give yourself some time and be patient. Your son leaving is a huge adjustment and I think it would be normal to have the feelings you have. I am also dreading the day my kids leave … I have a freshman and junior and we are talking about schools and colleges…. such a big step in their lives !
    Thanks for the link up and give yourself some time… warmer and longer days are coming, that always boosts my mood.

  27. Sometimes life gets the better of us…I had wondered where you went when you weren’t posting, but I totally understand! I’ve taken time off from running before too for no apparent reason- I guess you could call it burnout. The great thing about running is that it’s always there when you want to return to it!

    I will say I feel ya on the “baby of the family” thing! My little brother just turned 15 last summer and will be 16 in another 4 months…and he’s driving now!! I remember when he was born and I was 14! Crazy!
    Montana @ Pretty Lil Mudder recently posted…Ultimate Coffee Date: MarchMy Profile

  28. I am really sorry I am commenting so late (I don’t quite know what happened this month!) but I just wanted to say that I think you are amazing and brave being an army mom! With the running, start slowly and just enjoy getting out – don’t put the pressure on yourself until you’re back in a groove.
    Steph recently posted…Starting the decoratingMy Profile

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